I first became interested in personal development when I was 12 years old. It was like discovering a whole new world (yes, just like the Aladdin song!). It made me realise that you could intentionally make your life better and ever since then I’ve been interested in personal development and positive psychology.
I went on to read countless self-help books and experimenting on how to make my life “better”, which led to me studying psychology at university and undertaking my life coach certification.
Over the past thirteen years I’ve had varying thoughts about personal development and particularly the personal development industry which I am now apart of.
In my everyday life I’m often having critical discussions about the personal development industry, questioning everything about it and also being aware of “the dark side” of it as well.
I wish I could sit down with each and every one of you in my community in real life and have these kind of open and honest conversations (with chai of course), which is why I’ve decided to share with you my beliefs about personal development, my approach as a coach and what you need to know about my beliefs about the work I do.
This is what I believe:
I believe that personal development is powerful and amazing. But some of the most inspiring humans in my life do not consciously or actively pursue their own growth at all, yet they grow and evolve and achieve their goals anyway.
I believe that everything — and I mean everything — changes when you commit to taking empowered action towards what you want. But I also believe that there’s no point in getting caught up on where you want to be so much, that you don’t make the most of where you are right now and the journey along the way.
I believe in living your life, setting goals and pursuing personal development based on what’s important to you. And this (of course) will be different for everyone.
I believe that even being able to think about your own personal development is an incredible privilege, one not all of us are in a position to make. Based on differing life circumstances/experiences//backgrounds, not all of us are in the same position (at all) to pursue our growth and goals. This is something I think the personal development industry needs to take into account more often.
I believe that personal development isn’t always the most helpful (or kind) thing for us to pursue. Sometimes it’s because we are dealing with things that self-help can’t fix. And sometimes we can use it as a distraction, or to try and “fix” ourselves or because we don’t feel good enough as we are. (Read more about this here.)
I believe that it’s (more than) okay to want to be better, to want to achieve our goals and to work towards living the life we want — but I also believe it’s important to consider our motives and to constantly reevaluate how we’re approaching our own growth and to ask ourselves: Is this actually good for me right now?
I believe that there is nothing more powerful than being kind to yourself. That no amount of personal development or self-help is as liberating as practicing self-acceptance and self-compassion.
I believe self-development books are amazing and life-changing, but nowadays I read less self-help books than I ever have before. I get more inspiration from fiction (and honestly young adult/teenage fiction and series like Harry Potter!) than personal development books nowadays.
I believe that being grateful is a choice — but that it’s actually not always the right choice for us to make. Yes, gratitude is powerful and life-changing, but self-compassion and kindness is always more important. (Read more about this here.)
I believe there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach to achieving your goals and getting the most out of your life.
I believe in these contradictions of personal development… That we can wholeheartedly accept who we are right now, while we work towards being the absolute best versions of ourselves. That we can enjoy and embrace where we are right now, while we work towards what we want. And that we can be grateful for our lives as they are, but still want to call in more.
I believe that I as a coach don’t have all (or any!) of the answers. But what I do believe is supporting people to empower themselves, so they can uncover the answers for themselves. I believe that YOU are the absolute expert on you.
I don’t believe coaching is the perfect solution for every single person. And I also don’t believe that I am the best coach for every person either.
If you think I could possibly be the right coach for you, I invite you to head over here and read more about how I can support you in a 1:1 coaching series for either 3 or 6 months. I’m currently booking in new clients in September and for the remainder of 2018, do you want to be one of them?
If you’re interested in getting this kind of support from me I offer a complimentary IGNITE CALL for us to connect, chat more about what you’re wanting to get out of your one infinite life and see if we’d make an awesome match for working together. Oh and all my coaching sessions take place via Zoom (it’s like Skype — but better!) so we can work together from wherever you’re based in the world!
If you’re interested all you need to do is email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know you’d like to explore working 1:1 together. And of course if you have any questions about working with me in this way feel free to ask away!
I would love to support you 1:1 this year.
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