I often get asked, “How do I be kind to myself and still make my goals happen?” This is a great question and I know that so many of us want to make our goals happen BUT at the same time want to make sure we are being kind to ourselves at the same time.
I know for me there are times I thought that I could either take action towards my goals OR be kind to myself. But I know now that it isn’t true (at all).
It hasn’t always been this way for me, but I’ve gotten a lot better at doing the dance between the two and seeing how they are BOTH essential in my life. And something I’ve noticed is how much more productive I am when I allow myself this approach.
I believe that:
You can make your goals happen, while being kind to yourself.
You can take action like never before, while also taking exceptional care of yourself.
There are times where we know we need to pull back more, take a break and do less. And on the other hand, there are times were we know we need to dig deep, show up and take a whole lot of empowered action.
Something I often tell my clients to help them know which approach they need right now is to: Meet yourself where you’re at.
Meaning to take note of where you’re at (what’s going on in your life, how you’re feeling, etc) and then give yourself permission to focus on what is important right now based on this.
There are going to be times were you take less (or no!) action towards the things you want to make happen in your life, and there are times where you’re going to be taking a whole lot of action and making a whole lot of progress.
This “meet yourself where you’re at” approach works for so many things…
When it comes to taking action towards your goals. For example this might look like taking huge and big actions towards making your goals happen (that are totally outside your comfort zone) and at other times it might look like doing some research from the comfort of your home.
When it comes to looking after yourself. For example for me self-care sometimes looks like yoga classes and walking at the beach and at other times it’s binge-watching Netflix.
When it comes to your gratitude practice. For example, sometimes I’m grateful for really big and amazing things that are happening in my life, and other days I’m just grateful I got out of bed or for something quite small and (seemingly) insignificant.
The thing I love most about this approach is witnessing how it makes people be kinder and compassionate with themselves and also how it helps them dig deep when required as well. Action plus self-care is an amazing combination.
What’s amazing about this approach is that it gives you permission to be kind to yourself, while also helping you to meet your appropriate edge for where you’re at.
What would you’re life look like if you met yourself where you’re at today, this week, this month and this year?.
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