Hey there incredible human! Welcome to One Infinite Life.
My name is Chloe and I'm an award-winning Certified Life Coach and writer with a background in psychology.
My mission (the quick version) to to help you get the most out of your one infinite life.
I hope you find something here that makes your day (or life) better than it was before!
I acknowledge the Boonwurrung people of the Kulin nations where One Infinite Life is operated from. I pay my respects to Elders past, present and emerging and also to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people in my community and wider network.
Emily Ehlers… How do I begin to describe Emily Ehlers?
Emily Ehlers is a hilariously honest storyteller, writer and creative copywriter.
I hear her writing and words are world-changing, full-of-wisdom, colourful, and fun — and that she “rebels against modern day seriousness.”
I hear she has recently written an eBook called Cruisy: The Road Less Frazzled.
Her favourite meditation is the 4-7-8 technique.
One time she made me laugh out loud at my computer screen (actually this happens all the time!)
And she has a thing for camembert (me too!)
One time she agreed to be interviewed for this site… it was awesome.
Enjoy her words and wisdom!
Side note: I may have been watching Mean Girls while putting together this intro, but because Emily References Glen Coco on her about page I’m pretty sure it was meant to be 😉
1. Steve Jobs once said “you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards”. What are some of the “dots” that have led you to where you are today?
Ahh – a fave quote. I have so many damn dots! One of the most rewarding connections has been finding my career as a creative copywriter. Really, just finding my way home back to my words. I talk about it as ‘the thread’ in my eBook Cruisy: The Road Less Frazzled and (because lazy) here’s an excerpt:
“Regardless of the ventures or vocations I have pursued, my thread was always there. From the moment I could speak I was telling stories and, from an early age, I wanted to be a journalist. My creative writing ventures have always revolved around humour, imagination and environmental causes (like my 1991 classic “The Snail Who Lost His Shell”, whose protagonist was a bug who liked to recycle).”
That story goes on. I ended up studying journalism, but distracted myself with pub work. I got office jobs… then stole spare minutes (hours?!) writing. I tried to something “proper”… then spent every spare moment writing stories. Now I write funny, imaginative copy for entrepreneurs who believe in good things.
Imagine what could have happened if I was just brave enough to start 10 years ago? I’m where I am meant to be, of course, but as a cautionary tale if you are putting something off: START NOW.
2. What advice do you have for anyone who is letting fear hold themselves back from going after what they really want?
As above! Fear can often block us from moving forward. It is a survival instinct – when we were cave-ladies that gut feeling could’ve saved our lives (not walking around the corner and facing that sabre-tooth). It’s part of our biology.
But the thing is, when we are doing new things and exploring new territory, you better believe that fear is going to rear it’s ugly head. If it means something to us fear should be there. Fear is the clue that what you are doing is important to us.
3. You’re well-experienced with stress and anxiety (which are so common nowadays), what are your top 3 tips for someone who is feeling completely overwhelmed with where they’re at right now?
1. First – Stop. Just stop. Don’t look for reasons or excuses on why you can’t stop. Take 3 big deep breaths. Go for a walk. Take a break. Clear the decks. When we create space in our lives everything makes more sense. It’s what I call Forest For The Tree’s Thinking.
2. Now ask yourself about whatever is overwhelming you – what is the worst thing that could happen? Think of every option. Write it down. Toy with it. Really – what is the worst that could happen? If you asked for space/help/money/time? If you quit/started/changed direction? If you didn’t experience it or if you did?
3. Remind yourself that nothing is ever certain or set or concrete. If things are going well – they can change. If things are going badly – they can change. All we have is now and there are always options. They may not be ideal, but you do have the power to make things better/easier/calmer/different.
4. What advice do you have for big dreamers who still want to make things happen — but don’t want to get caught up in striving or find themselves completely burnt out?
Oh man, ain’t that the quintessential problem for us ladies with big dreams and busy minds?! I’m a massive fan – as a starting point – of the Not To Do List. This is a list that can be used to catch all the shiny objects that catch your eye and spark your FOMO (the podcast/ebook/ecourse/interview series you need to create now yesterday).
Then it’s to get really clear on what your mission or primary values/goals are. Once you’ve figured that out, for every large or small decision that comes your way, ask yourself this – “is this moving me closer towards my values/goals, or is it moving me further away?”
5. Witnessing your evolution online has been fascinating and inspiring. What have you learnt from realising health coaching was not your zone of genius to where you are now?
That nothing is ever a failure. These endeavors we try, these stars we shoot for, sometimes they miss the mark. That’s just part of this whole life thang. You can either be levelled by things that don’t go so well or you can learn from them. Learning is always the best option. Keep throwing that spaghetti at the wall until you feel it sticking. Keep searching – because that itch will always be there.
6. Your mission is “to lead a rebellion against modern day seriousness” where would you suggest someone start if they are wanting to start approaching life in a more playful and fun way?
Start looking at life like a child. They see wonder and opportunity in everything. The running joke is that you give a kid a present and they are more interested in the box – DAMN RIGHT. They don’t give a crap about convention, expectation or assumption. They do what feels good.
You can never presume what anyone else is thinking/judging/assuming. So you might as well rock on with your bad self and just do what feels fun. What did you LOVE as a child? What could you talk about all day? What would you do if you were gifted 24 hours of free time? Start there.
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I’m currently obsessed with… jigsaw puzzles.
The BEST part of my day today was… having a piece of writing of mine create conversation around female friendship and authenticity.
A book I absolutely love and would recommend is… “Committed: A Rabble-Rouser’s Memoir”. For the disruptors, the rebels, the out-of-the-boxers. (And people that like animals – it’s about animal rights!)
The last time I felt truly infinite was when… it’s always dawn – walking on the beach, barefoot, no makeup, alone and listening to Modern Drift by Efterklang.
Cruisy: The Road Less Frazzled is a roadmap that will help you find flow, feel well and learn how to strive without all the stress. It makes presence practical, mindfulness magical and (like any good road trip) will make you laugh along the way.
This is the ultimate guide to help you feel like yourself again. To inspire you to tweak a few small things in your life, but see big results. To get back in touch with what you actually value and drive towards your dreams without burning out.
Emily Ehlers is a curious copywriter, larrikin life coach + mindful modern mama. She spends her days writing for awesome humans in the creative, sustainable, personal development and health + wellness industries as well as working on her own playful projects in that realm. She is obsessed with the inner child, champagne and movie references. She also loves lamp.
Find her at http://www.emilyehlers.com.au