One Infinite Life
February 23, 2016

Ever since I became a life coach I've been facing the misconception that life coaches are perfect and are living a perfect life. So I'm setting the record straight with these confessions. It's time to get real...

I have a confession.

Even though I’m a life coach…

I’m not perfect. My life isn’t perfect. And I don’t have it “all together” all the time.

This is totally obvious to me (and to those who are close to me), however ever since I became a life coach I’ve been facing this misconception that life coaches are perfect and are living a perfect life.

And honestly — ever since I graduated myself — I’ve found myself putting more pressure on myself than usual to have it “all together” as well.

But the truth is I don’t.

In fact, as I’m writing this to you, it’s 3pm and I’m still in my pyjamas.

I’ve been on the computer since 7am.

I just ate peanut butter on toast, because I’ve been so immersed in my work I didn’t eat breakfast (or lunch!) Which is kinda a big deal in my world because I’m always thinking about food and what I’m going to eat next.

And I haven’t even made my bed this morning (sorry Mum!)

But from the outside you don’t see this.

You only see that I’ve had two guest posts published this week (including one on The Huffington Post!) and an interview go live.

You’ve seen that I’ve posted on my blog and been active on social media.

You’ve seen the beach walks and the almond milk chais.

From the outside it looks like I’m doing awesome (and I’m truly grateful for all of the above).

This week I’ve even had several people say that I’m “killing it” at the moment.

But it’s simply not the full picture.

You don’t get to see the imperfect and messy behind the scenes.

You don’t see the hours I spent on the computer writing.

You don’t see the self-doubt that seems to creep up every single week, no matter how many “awesome” things happen.

You don’t see me sitting here in my pyjamas, with my mismatched socks on, working from the couch, with my toast plate still on the coffee table, and Harry Potter playing in the background (Goblet of Fire if you’re wondering!)

And if you did, you would realise that I’m so far from perfect.

So that’s why I’m sharing this with you today.

Because I want you to know that no one — not even life coaches — are perfect.

That no one has it “all together” all the time.

And to encourage you to give yourself permission to NOT be perfect or have it “all together” all the time.


And while I’m here being all honest with you, I might as well tell you that…

∞  Even though I help others achieve their goals — I’m not always constantly motivated to achieve my own.

∞  Even though I try to move every single day I haven’t exercised in 3 days.

∞  I don’t meditate or exercise every single day. I honestly would love too, but honestly it doesn’t always happen — and that’s okay.

∞  I used to worry A LOT (and sometimes still do) that people will think I’m “too young” to be a life coach.

∞  I burn my toast more often than I don’t — and I pretty much always have.

∞  I’m 23 and I don’t have my drivers license (thanks anxiety!)


Honestly, there’s so many more ways that I’m not perfect, but I hope that has made is clear to you that I’m definitely not perfect.

And that being a coach doesn’t mean that I’m perfect or have it “all together” all the time.

So give yourself permission to not be perfect either, because let’s be honest life is messy and being a human is messy too.

I’m sharing this with you today because I want to make sure that you do not think I — or anyone else for that matter — is perfect, because it’s simply not true.

And I want to let you know that it’s completely okay NOT to have it all together all the time.

As Liz Gilbert said:


“Embrace the glorious mess that you are.”



And before you go a few things:

∞  I was inspired by the Violet Gray Design #imperfectlymeVG flashmob to share this with you. For the flashmob I shared the imperfection I struggle to embrace the most (and you can read about that here) and if you want to feel inspired to start owning ALL of who you are I highly recommend checking out the hashtag. I have no doubt that it will encourage you to embrace your imperfections — and to be a little more okay when you haven’t got it all together.

∞  This post was originally shared only with the Infinite Community, but the response from the email was so incredible, I knew that this was something that needed to be shared here on the blog as well.

∞  If you’re looking for a coach who definitely is not perfect, you can find out more about working with me here. I recently have updated my offerings and there are new ways you can work with me over here.

∞  Becoming a life coach was one of the BEST decisions I’ve ever made (yep, in my entire life!) If you’re interested in becoming a coach yourself, I truly would recommend the Beautiful You Coaching Academy and you can find out more about my experience here.

∞  If you’re interested in getting a candid and real insight into my everyday life, I’ve been loving sharing the behind-the-scenes over on Snapchat, you can find me at: chloe_wigan.

∞  And if you enjoyed this post I would be super grateful if you shared it around (you can do this easily by clicking the buttons at the bottom of this post. Let’s not perpetuate the myth that life coaches — or anyone for that matter — are perfect.


Thank you for being here.

One Infinite Life

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Ever since I became a life coach I've been facing the misconception that life coaches are perfect and are living a perfect life. So I'm setting the record straight with these confessions. It's time to get real...